I was obese, inactive, and headed down a very short path to self-destruction.
When I started off, my journey was 100% focused around me.
What I needed to do to lose weight. What activities I could do to get in shape.
What foods I needed to eat that would allow me to both.
When I first started writing I shared my blog with a few of
my friends, Paul after some time, and that was about it. I kept it pretty
private, at least at first. I didn’t share it with family, I kept it off
Facebook, and I never discussed it at work. Why? I don’t really know. Maybe
because I was ashamed of myself, maybe because I thought no one would ever want
to read it.
But in time, I changed. I became more accepting of myself
and in turn open with my story. I openly discussed my weight loss with friends,
family, co-workers; you name it- pretty much anyone that would listen.
Now, well now I am here. You know pretty well that I will
talk openly in pretty much any forum about pretty much any topic. I’ve talked
about the shitty stuff; mom’s cancer, our infertility and I’ve talked about the
awesome stuff; running my first mile, Paul’s commissioning, and everything in
between.
But one thing I don’t think I have ever written about, or
even realized would happen, is the impact the changes I make to my life have on
other people. You see, when I sit down to write I really just write about what’s
in my head, what’s going on in my life, things that matter to me. I never
really think about what I write and how it could possibly affect someone else’s life.
That same rings true for posting on FB or Twitter, talking with
friends/coworkers, phone calls with family- I never really have given much
thought to the impact my stories, in whatever form, have.
Until recently.
I am starting to notice more and more lately how my life
changes are affecting the people in my life. And that is really cool.
Like my Dad-the kale addict. He’s not a vegan, or a
vegetarian for that matter, but he ate kale when he was visiting back in 2011
and has been a kale junky ever since. He recently called to tell me about how
his blood pressure and cholesterol were in the normal ranges for the first time
ever. I asked him why, what had he done to change them and he said ‘I eat kale!’
Or Paul, when I said earlier this week about not doing a CSA
pickup since I’ll be going out of town. He said ‘no, we should definitely get
it. Then I will have fresh fruits and veggies to eat while you’re gone’. Big
change from the man who would have happily eaten pizza/take out every night
until I returned. Now he is cooking his own, super healthy meals every day. And that is awesome!
Or my mom, who said that after her mastectomy she wants to
become a vegetarian. She doesn’t want to eat dead animals (her words) anymore.
I never have told anyone that I think they should become vegetarian/vegan, especially
my parents. BUT I have tried to encourage them to eat less processed junk and
more real foods- you know, like a sweet potato instead of rice a roni. But the
fact that she views her health as something that can be controlled by diet-
well that makes me super happy.
But probably the most amazing thing through all of this is
hearing your stories. I am always shocked to receive comments/messages from
people, sometimes complete strangers, telling me that I have affected them in
some positive way- maybe through motivation to start running again, or trying out meatless Mondays, or
even just saying that something I said resonated with them. It’s amazing.
And I hope I can continue to be that way. I always want to
be me and authentic to my true self but if I can be a positive light into just
one person’s life- well that’s just
mindblowingastronomicallythecoolestthingever….
Very nicely done post Dacia! You have done such a great job with your fitness journey it is inspiring. You are right, you need to take care of yourself first & feel good about it. Then others take notice & see how such a positive thing your life changes can be for them. It;s so so awesome that your parents have picked up & want to adopt your healthy living.
ReplyDeleteI will admit that at first I wouldn't say anything about what my running to friends or facebook or twitter but I have got more comfortable talking about running. It really is fun & powerful talking to people that are just starting to run to give them tips or things that worked for you. It is actually hard to believe that I can be a good example because for a long time I didn't really understand running (still learning every day). It's so thrilling to help out other runners.
I have never said this to anyone but I started running on the country roads because I guess I was self conscious wondering what other people would think about me. I finally have got over that decided that it doesn't matter what others think because this is your life. I can only hope I can inspire others.