Tuesday, May 21, 2013

You're Doing It Wrong

I try very hard to be a positive person. I try to never talk bad about other people, or blogs, or what I've read, etc. I try to just write about my life and what I'm up to without letting what other people say or do affect me.

But I'm a human. And some days I just can't let the things I read just roll off my back.

Some days it eats me alive reading the 'words of wisdom' of other bloggers because some times their message infuriates me.

Today was one of those days.

This morning the only thing I could think about was this:

If what you are doing today isn't what you want to be doing for the rest of your life then you're doing it wrong.

That's my opinion.

An opinion that came bubbling to the surface after reading through some posts this morning.

It just kills me that there are people who wake up every day and deprive themself of joy and happiness just because someone else tells them to. People modeling their behavior off of someone else because they believe it will bring them similar successes.

Maybe it's just me, maybe I am just on the other end of the spectrum and so these types of behaviors seem so damaging to me. I believe in moderation, not deprivation. I believe in being active AND enjoying it. I believe that you should live each day trying to make yourself better than you were the day before but not at the expense of your happiness, sanity, relationships.

And when you write about forcing yourself through activities you hate, that make you miserable, just for the sake of a smaller size. And when you cut out foods completely from your diet and either hate yourself for it or binge on them because of it because you feel deprived- well those are just not healthy behaviors.

We need to take back control of our lives. Work towards healthy but don't lose yourself in the process. Because the reality is, when you hit your goal weight/size this does not stop. When you write about these drastic behaviors and tell people they are temporary you must know that you are not setting yourself up for success in maintenance and you aren't helping your readers form healthy, sustainable habits either.

You don't hit goal and then stop. That's not how it works.

This is a lifestyle change. Yup, I said it. It's for life, people! And who wants to be miserable for the rest of their life?

Steps down off the soapbox